Through my ex husbands own admission, he never sees our son. He has a new family now and it wouldn’t be fair to those kids for dad to disappear and spend one on one time with his first born, blah blah blah. If you make them, take care of them. ALL of them. Our son happens to have a few special needs that his father just simply ignores and resorts to yelling and screaming, which is why my son won’t go over there. And he has a strong dislike for his father’s girlfriend, but we won’t go there.
Well I posted a blog yesterday about having to console my son after his semi annual trip to his fathers. Apparently my ex is following my blog, because this pissed him off. Let’s see. Bill and I have been together for one year. In that one year, (I have Bill as a witness), my son spent two nights with his father. So, is semi annual visit WRONG? It’s hitting the nail on the head!
What hurt more? The fact that I publicized it or the fact that it’s true? You just sent me an email (which I of course sent to Ryan’s Law Guardian) telling me to move out of state because you were done with Ryan. I asked you again if we could move whether or not you’d fight it, and your response was “GO!” So, what’s the problem? I’m just happy to see that you take the time to follow my work. Or is this how you stay connected to Ryan? You read my blogs about him so you have something to tell the judge when I file for sole custody? The child support is a completely different issue. You KNOW you owe me more since you’re back to work, but because you had yet another baby on the way, I chose to keep it where it was to HELP you. You see, I STILL feel sorry for you. I’m not going to take food out of your new baby’s mouth simply because it’s owed to MY son. And I’ll save the maintenance you still owe for another rant. I’ll continue to support him, and he’ll continue to pray that Bill will one day be his real dad. We’ll go to court (you can appear by phone because I know you’re the only provider in that house and can’t take the time off of work) where I will file for sole custody and have the right to LEGALLY take MY son where ever we want to go. Your email and text messages helps immensely! Thank you for those.
I guess the bottom line is… thank you for following me. Thank you for seeing that my writing HAS in fact paid off, and that I’ve got publishers asking more of my submissions because they love my work and are promoting me for FREE!! Thank you for believing in me. I’m sorry the truth hurts sometimes, but when you go so long between phone calls, and you make no attempt to spend quality time with him, MY son is going to see this for himself. You care more about this “new” family than you do him. He’s not stupid. If I can see through the smoke screen, so can he. He’s actually a very smart little boy. But at 11 years old, he’s had to face some harsh realities, forcing him to grow up far before his time. I’m just as guilty for staying with you as long as I did, when I should have divorced you the first time you cheated. Even the second time. But I was too weak. I was a single mom and had little support so I stuck it out. That’s no excuse. Ryan never should have made it to his second birthday with his biological parents married. I’m a fool for staying with you as long as I did. I can’t undo it, but at least I can say I tried. I tried to make you see the importance of family, the importance of communicating verses yelling and screaming. Ryan said all Nikki did was yell at Dylan (not even 2 yet?!) all day?! That’s awesome. So, it’s history repeating itself. Someday Dylan’s going to be sitting at his girlfriends dinner table, confessing to her mother how unhappy he is at home, because all everyone does is scream and yell. Well, there’s NO WAY I’m allowing that to happen to MY son. So you continue leading your pathetic lives, popping out kids like a Pez dispencer that you can’t afford (because you know if we went back to court and I got what is truly owed to me, you’d be bankrupt again), and we’ll continue moving forward, making progress and becoming successful. Have a wonderful life!
And Nikki… you know what they say… once a cheater, always a cheater. If he did it to me, you know he has it in him to do it to you. You might want to shorten that leash a little more. Regardless, we create our own karma, so I truly wish you both exactly what it is you deserve. Thanks for your support in following my blog. It really is an ego boost!!
~Kate…one successful, happy, proud Kate.