From #BethlehemBuffalo to Baltimore MD

During the month of December, 2014, I had a plan in place.  I was enrolled in a program which helped with financial aid to go back to college and finish my degree.  My appointment was on January 15th.  Life had never been better.

January 12th of 2015, I was in a severe car accident, which resulted in the temporary loss of my car.  As of today, my car is STILL in the repair shop.  Yes, that’s correct… One hundred and seven days without a vehicle, and counting.  Over the course of those 107 days, my life has been chaotic, and that’s putting it mildly.  From deaths in the family, to friends giving birth, new doctors, surgeons, lawyers, lawsuits, settlements, school, college, concerns for my son’s health, the ups and downs of a typical relationship…  In a nut shell, my life has been anything BUT quiet.

The one thing that has remained consistent over the course of these 107 days, is the nightly news.  Every night, there is at least one breaking news story aimed at defaming a police department, be it local or across the nation.  Having gone to college for criminal justice, I hope you can understand that this literally makes me sick.  Yes, writing is ONE passion of mine, but criminal justice has always been in the forefront.  It disgusts me to hear such things about our police officers, but what’s worse is that sometimes these nasty things are true.

A few days ago, my local police department was being slammed on social media for being a bunch of savage murderers with a license to kill.  What happened was, a herd of bison escaped from a farm a few counties away.  Those bison made their way from the farm, through a couple of counties, across the Hudson river, into our county.  The local and state police tracked the herd for 8 hours, making sure the public was safe.  These were wild bison, charging anyone or anything that got close to them.  Once the afternoon had begun, and the school was beginning to dismiss students, it was ultimately decided that the bison were a threat to public safety.  They were shot and killed.  Well, OMG!  Those bastards!!  Why couldn’t they coax a herd of 15 wild bison onto a heavy duty trailer and haul them to safety?  I’m sure if they knew there were cookies involved, these wild, angry, 1,100lb beasts would’ve fully complied.  Anyway… as I was scrolling through my newsfeed on Facebook, I couldn’t believe the names our officers were being called.  Instead of a “Thanks for keeping us all safe” there were way too many UNEDUCATED people criticizing the same organization that keeps them safe, day after day.  Now, had the police not acted when they did, the wild bison would have eventually killed a citizen and then they’d be bashed for NOT killing the animals right from the start.  Police officers have an extremely difficult job to do.  Add to that, the fact that they have to please numerous different opinionated people. I don’t envy police officers today…  They definitely don’t have it easy.

While attending community college, I learned that despite my good intentions (and those of every other individual interested in law enforcement), our criminal justice system is far too corrupt.  It’s been said that one person can make all the difference.  I don’t believe that’s true in this case.  My opinion?   It has to be a collaborate, nationwide effort involving colleges, police departments, correctional facilities, counselors, court systems and congress to name just a few. BUT… this is where I come in.  Someone has to get the ball rolling, correct?  Even if I’m not a part of the reconstruction process, I can certainly get the right people involved who can get things off the ground. We have to start somewhere!!  Education has to be a priority.  If Obama can mandate health insurance (with good intentions of course) why not mandate education?  Perhaps if that were the case, we wouldn’t have a city like Baltimore burning itself to the ground.  What exactly are they going to gain by destroying their city and killing off their police department?  Well, they haven’t thought that far ahead because they aren’t educated to do so!!  They’re angry, and maybe rightly so, but what the hell is all of this violence going to get them?  And although I haven’t read or heard the quote directly (yet), it certainly doesn’t help to have a mayor encouraging such ignorant, barbaric behavior!

I don’t know all the details/facts pertaining to Baltimore, but… did the officer(s) know that there was a history of mental illness, or health conditions?  Probably not.  So, let’s start by educating officers AND the general public. Once that’s established, why not actually TRY to reform and rehabilitate prisoners?  Why in this day and age is it so difficult to weed out the good from the bad?  Well, because everyone has rights.  If someone feels their rights have been violated, they file a lawsuit, clogging up our judicial systems even further.

I think Obama was absolutely right about one thing… It’s time for some serious change in this great nation.  Now we just have to start making those changes. Who’s game?


Peace, love and happiness ALWAYS,



Love days like today…

When my ex tries his hardest to drive me crazy and it simply doesn’t work; (you are NOT getting back into MY computer…EVER.  Give up already.) when my boyfriend calls just to say good morning, he loves me and hopes I have a great day; when Ryan is happy going to school, confident it’s going to be a good day; when I talk to my dad first thing and his comments about said ex’s attempts still have me laughing.  And my conversation this morning with Ryan about the “Stupid Karate Kid.”  At 11 years old my son says “Does he even have a clue that I could take him down without even breaking a sweat mom?”  LOVE this kid!!!  The past week was very trying.  I’ve done some writing this morning, but didn’t get much sleep last night.  I was stuck in the dream stage all night and they weren’t very good dreams.  I dreamt of grown men not brushing their teeth, and the build up of their mothers breast milk lying along their gum line.  I dreamt of pathetic human beings, wasting space on this earth for those of us truly worthy of being here.  It was a restless night, and since I’ve done some writing already, and Ryan’s off to school, I think I’m going to take myself a little cat nap.  As I begin to fall asleep, I’ll recall all of the memories we made yesterday and last night, and hopefully get this monster out of my head.  He belongs in an institution, not taking up precious space in my brain.  Hope you all have a good day!!

PLH4 Always!!!!

~Kate…one extremely exhausted, Kate.

Fan-Freaking-tastic Day

I have not one single complaint!  I spent 5 hours WITH Ryan, bonding with a stray dog.  The animal control officer wasn’t on duty today and we aren’t allowed to have pets, so I was freaking out, as to what I was going to do with this poor, under weight dog that had open wounds all over its body.  Being infested with fleas, I couldn’t bring it into out apartment.  So, I called the police back, and they were able to contact the animal control officer, and now I know the dog is at the vet, being cared for properly.

Today marks an extremely special day for us.  One of my very best friends confided a secret, and I’m not at liberty to share it, as it is her news to share.  If you’re reading this, please know that I will ALWAYS be right here.  Wait until you see what I did for you already!!  I told you… you are going to be so sick of me in the very near future.  But I’ll love you anyway,

Great day, followed by a great night because my boyfriend is in a loveable mood.  I LOVE when life is good.  Despite all the negativity that is lingering around us, we refuse to absorb it and stay positive.  Totally loving life right now, and I hope you are all doing the same.

Good night fellow bloggers!  Wishing you ALL nothing but the best!! From my heart to yours…

~Kate…one extremely satisfied, grateful, and humbled Kate.

Where the heck is Easy Street?!

I had to go get my car inspected this morning, and the mechanic had a sticker on his door asking “Where the heck is Easy Street?”  So, thank you Dave, for prompting this blog.  Easy Street, believe it or not, is right outside your door.  It’s all just a matter of perception.  If you’re constantly looking or waiting for the other shoe to drop, you’re never going to find Easy Street.  However, if you stop looking for that shoe, and live your life now, in the moment, you have reached Easy Street.   Life was not meant to be easy, no matter your religious denomination.  Life is nothing more than a series of tests.  You pass the test, you move on to the next.  You fail, and you’re tested again, repeatedly, until you do finally pass.  But at no point in time was anything ever made to be easy.  What do we learn from easy?  What do we gain?  Absolutely nothing.  Well, we might learn how to be lazy, which then leads to sense of entitlement, but that’s hardly learning at all.  Life is about learning, making mistakes, more learning so as not to repeat those mistakes, and so on.  It’s also about kindness.  Why is this world so full of hate, anger, hostility, violence, secrets, lies and negativity?  I want to live in a world, again, where my grandchildren have to ask me what war was.  And what do I say?  It was a power trip?  One country felt threatened so they had to go kill innocent people to prove they were superior.  I want to be a part of this wave blanketing the earth.  The blanket is made of peace, love, respect, positivity, encouragement, kindness and happiness.  I’ve created the home with those specific ingredients.  I just wish I possessed the power to share my blanket.  I don’t like to see anger or frustration in any form.  Its totally unnecessary and solves nothing.  Love on the other hand, has the potential to make a total stranger feel better.  I’m ALL FOR helping anyone in need.  If more people would change their perception, we might just have a chance at turning this world around.  What happened to love thy neighbor?  Well maybe they’re loud late at night, and instead of walking over and asking them to keep it down, you let the anger fester and the poison run through your veins until you reach a point where there’s an all out brawl between the two of you.  I’m happy to say we are surrounded by awesome neighbors on all sides.  If we renew our lease it will be partly because of them.  They go out of their way to be kind and considerate.  Knowing I have Ryan, the volume goes down at a reasonable hour, we are always met with a friendly hello and we ALL look out for each other.  I like it this way.  This is how the whole world should be!!

My day is done, as far as my “To Do” list, and I still managed to make someone else’s day.  Do you know what it feels like to make a stranger genuinely smile?  If not, you should try it.  And not for recognition!!  For the simple fact that you have the capability of doing so.  I hope someone made you smile today, and I also hope you chose to pay it forward.  The world needs more of this!!  So join in already!  Know that nothing will ever come easy, but I’m more than willing to share my blanket with all of you.  Have a good day fellow bloggers!!

~Kate…an exhausted, fulfilled, grateful, blanket sharing, Kate.

Okay… I lied…

Well, not entirely.  I gave up on focusing on my followers.  I didn’t start a blog to gain a following.  I started a blog to write.  Then I reached 50 followers.  I was so flipping excited! When it hit 100?  I had to be peeled off the ceiling.  Then I decided to stop focusing on that.  I love each and every one of you, but I was getting wrapped up in my followers and losing sight on what I originally started out to do, which was write.  Sometimes I have bad days and need to vent, but more often than not I’m trying to pick out the good in all my days.  I vowed to not focus on the ever increasing number of followers and just kept writing.  Well, today (last night, but I opened it today) WordPress sent me a message saying it was my best day for likes.  So, my curiosity was piqued.  I did it.  I hit the stats button, only to see that I am 4 followers away from 200.  I do hope that this number one day reaches 20,000, but I am satisfied with my 196 (plus 2 email followers and if my FATHER would create a link to follow me by email that’d put me even closer).  You are all amazing, and extremely inspiring.  I look forward to reading your posts each morning, and the conversations that will soon transpire as I respond.  You are all so kind and supportive.  And POSITIVE!!!  I don’t want any negativity on here whatsoever!!  I love to be happy.  I love the way it makes me feel, and the fact that laughter is not only the best medicine, BUT, it’s so very contagious, motivates me even more.  Why, when we have the option to choose happiness, do so many of us pick anger and misery?  It’s such a bad feeling.  I believed for the longest time that I was alone in my thinking.  Then I met all of you.  This is my home.  This is where I belong.  You all have no idea what your words of inspiration do for me.  One day, I will go down the list (better make it soon before my number of followers increases) and thank you all personally for the part you play in my happiness. 

So, I caved.  I gave into my ego and looked at my stats.  And I’m so glad I did.  This is a sincere thanks to all of you.  All of you who keep me writing, who inspire me to keep being positive when I’m surrounded by negativity.  All of you who continue to be right here for me and comment on my blogs.  If I can help just one person achieve happiness, I will be grateful.

I hope you all have a great day!  I know I’m going to.  Happy blogging, and keep the positivity coming!!


~Kate…one grateful, positively optimistic, Kate.

A positive note…

I have spent the majority of my day obtaining as much info as I possibly could on this evil group, determined to attack the US.  In doing so, I have made them stronger.  I refuse to put any more thought into the “what if’s” and end my night on a positive note.  So, with that said…

We spent the day as a family.  We got all of Ryan’s school supply shopping done and are picking up his schedule Tuesday, and hopefully meeting with his counselor to get a few adjustments made.  Bill cooked us a delicious dinner of lasagna with home-made sauce, meatballs and fresh Italian bread.  My oh my…this man can cook!!  Ryan was teary eyed as he went to sleep tonight, but he says they were happy tears, and that he’s so glad it’s the 3 of us against the world (our motto since he was born has been “It’s me and you against the world, kiddo.”).  I think the time he spent with Bill did something to him.  He’s more confident when he speaks, and I only have to ask him ONE time to do something!!  He’s FINALLY listening to me!!  Bill and Ryan both say they had a great time, and if Bill said or did something to upset Ryan, I know he’d tell me.  So they obviously had a heart to heart, and Ryan absorbed every word.

Tonight, I am so grateful that there is no fighting in our house.  No yelling, no scolding, no abuse to “toughen Ryan up,” no animosity, no hidden anger, no negativity.  I am grateful for all that I have, and all that I’ll be receiving in the very near future.  I am grateful for the simple things and I am grateful for the amount of love that fills this house.  I’m not ashamed to say that we are one positive family, hoping to spread this contagious feeling of a natural high to those closest to us in the hopes that they too pass it along.  I am grateful for old and new friends.  I am grateful for the life I have been given and the blessings each new day brings.

I could go on and on, with all that I have to be grateful for, but the love of my life is waiting for me to finish up so that we can fall asleep wrapped up in each others arms.  So, I hope you can all stop, even if for only a brief moment and think of all that YOU have to be grateful for.

Good night fellow bloggers.

Peace, love and happiness, Always!

~Kate…one extremely grateful, extremely blessed, Kate.