B.A.D. Motivational Monday

I’m feeling kind of sluggish today myself…  So, as I was scrolling through pictures I could add to this post, this picture seemed to jump out at me.

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Sure Monday’s feel like molasses, but, as long as you’re moving, you’re lapping those who choose to spend the day on the couch.  And by “On the couch”, I’m talking about those who don’t see the need for change in their lives, those who just go through the motions, those that are satisfied with the nothingness their life lives consist of.

Monday’s are more difficult than any other days of the week (for me anyway)  I’ve got to catch up on a whole weekends worth of blogs I didn’t respond to, get back to writing, and now I’ve got to think about school shopping for my son.  I know I’m on my own with this, as his father never offers to help, so it’s a pretty big burden to carry around.  My son grew 1 3/4″ in 30 days.  He need all new pants, shirts, and I’m not even going to talk about his sock drawer.  But, we’ll get through it.  We always do.  It seems like everything hits us at once on Monday.  Well, hit it right back.  Keep lapping those on the couch, and know that you’re evolving, you’re doing something with your life.  Yes, it’s hard, but you’re doing already… just keep doing it!!

 

I know it’s going to be difficult, but I hope you have an awesome Monday!!

PLH5

~Kate…a slow to start, but starting nonetheless, Kate.

B.A.D. Motivational Monday

crowd

“The one who follows the crowd will usually get no further than the crowd.  The one who walks alone, is likely to find himself in places no one has ever been” ~ Albert Einstein

 

My son and I refer to the “crowd” as sheep.  We don’t want to be sheep.  Do you want to be a sheep?  Stray from the herd… Life is so much more beautiful from this side.  You’re not staring at the back of everyone’s head.  Start your own path; do your own thing; be who feels most alive, not who is most comfortable.  When we grow comfortable, we aren’t living… we’re existing.  I don’t know about you, but I don’t  want to just exist.  I want to make a statement!!  I want to soar above the crowd (and poop on a few people while I’m up there).  I want to venture out on my own.  Even if I was to follow the crowd, we have this issue of conformity.  I simply don’t fit in.  I wasn’t born to follow any crowd.  I was born to make my own path, admiring new scenery everyday, feeling rejuvenated every morning, in anticipation of what I’ll stumble across today.

I’m 35.  I spent a good 32 years being a crowd pleaser.  I broke the cycle.  As hard as it was, I left quite a few people in the dust.  If they want to be the typical 9-5er, with road rage because they HAVE to have this particular job and make it there on time, that’s their issue.  I’m quite content with the way I live my life, and am very grateful that I’m able to do so.  If I can do it, YOU can do it.  Make today a mental health day, and do something you’ll never forget.  Live a little!!!  The bills will always be there, but please rest assured, the world will not stop spinning if you don’t pay them on time.  Life…. it’s a once in a lifetime opportunity.  Take advantage of that!  And if you DO decide to take today off and do something memorable, I hope you’ll come back on here and share it with me.

Happy Monday everyone!!

Until next time…

~Kate (The black, bad ass, rule breaking sheep)  🙂

Daily Prompt: Back of the Queue

Back of the Queue

The one thing I’ve always wanted to do was get married. I did it, but we were young… kids without a clue, going through the motions. Now I want a real marriage. My current boyfriend says it’s nothing more than a piece of paper, and I’ve heard SO many men and woman say the same. To some, maybe that’s all it really is. To me, it’s a promise to the highest power that I will love this man until I die.

*Just for the record, I was not to blame for breaking that promise the first time around. Cheating once is enough to destroy a relationship, but twice, and the second time being with my best friend? Yea… that’s not okay with me. All in all I think it was a total of 3 times, but who wants to go back that far and dredge up all those painful memories?  Not me.*

I’ve got a reputation to maintain as a Tomboy, so to publicly admit that I want the dress, the cake, the huge celebration afterwards is a bit intimidating. But along with all of this, I want marriage to mean to my boyfriend what it means to me. We laugh so much together. We connect on a level I’ve never connected with anyone. It’s not all sunshine and rainbows all the time… we have our ups as well as our downs, but we work through it. So until my boyfriend realizes that it’s not just a piece of paper, I’ll sit and wait, continuing to love him, because even without the piece of paper I know I’ll love him to the very end.

I want him to realize the value of me as a person, and understand that when I say “I love you” it’s not just words to appease him.  I truly, truly love this man.  I want him to realize that there isn’t a single woman out there who will ever love him as much as I do.  I want him to think about what his life would be like if I weren’t in it.  Would he be sad?  Would he be lonely?  Or would he fall back into old routines and hang out with all of his single friends?  I don’t want him to propose just to make me happy.  I want him to propose because he realizes all of the above, and doesn’t want our relationship to end.  I want him to propose because he understands and appreciates what love is.  I want him to propose because he truly loves me and has no problems making that promise to the highest power.

Sorry to get all sappy on you first thing in the morning, but you prompted me to… literally.

~Kate

B.A.D. A Thought for Tuesday

Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value. –Albert Einstein

Often times we get so wrapped up in success, making more money so that we can buy nicer things, and let the world know WE are on top.  We lose sight of what’s truly important.  Let’s say you have all the money there I to possibly have.  This means you have all the material things you could possibly want.  Well, at least you have back up nest egg, just in case your taste changes and you want a new car every year, or you want a few vacation homes to choose from, depending on the time of year.  Now what?  Do you think THIS is success?  No…  You become successful when you have a goal and you reach it.  Is your goal being the richest person alive?  Sure it’d be nice, but not very realistic, yet we strive for this every month by saving, saving, saving.  What kind of life is that?  Obviously a reasonable nest egg is realistic, especially in today’s economy.  However, what ever happened to “Help thy neighbor?”

I’ll tell you what happened in my case.  I came into some money, and saw a couple of friends hurting.  One friend was without a vehicle.  I was in the process of trading mine in to get a more gas efficient car.  Instead of trading it in, I simply gave her my SUV.  I then paid the unexpected fees for her at motor vehicle because she didn’t have a means to pay them.  I got word that her and her husband were struggling to buy food, so I left some money in their camper early one morning and sent her text later on to let her know where she could find it.  A few months later they were trying to buy the house they lived in, and she came right out and asked me to borrow $300.  She said she’d put it in writing that she’d pay me back.  After this, we went months without talking.

While sitting in my nice new car, waiting for my boyfriend to come out for his lunch break I sent her a text.  I asked her if she would do me a favor.  She wrote back… Depends.  I wrote: Can we forget about the money you owe me?  I feel like you’re avoiding me because you can’t afford to pay me back, and I value our friendship much more than the money.  Of course she agreed, and was extremely grateful.  I’ve still yet to see her.  It’s been months.

It was during this same time that another good friend of mine got her Green Card.  She is from Peru, and moved tot he states about 5 years ago.  She met a man, fell in love got married and they had a baby.  The marriage turned very ugly, and she divorced him, but by not being married any more, there was no guarantee she’d be allowed to stay here.  Well, she got her Green Card, so she’s good for 10 years! (YAY) however, her family in Peru had never gotten a chance to meet her son who now almost 3.  One of my first purchases was a brand new laptop computer so she could Skype with her family and they could actually see and talk to their first grandson.

In my heart I knew I was doing the right thing.  This money was just going to sit in my account, and when I saw a friend in need, I was right there.  I’ve helped a few others along the way, but I’m noticing a pattern… everyone all of a sudden knows that I have money, so my “friends” are coming out of the woodwork.  It sickens me.  I only have a handful of friends. I wish I could help them all, but at the end of the day, I’ve got an 11-year-old that I have to take care of, and I’d like to be able to have him inherit a chunk of money once my number’s called.  So, I helped a few people and I got burned.  Big deal.  I know I did the right thing.  I can sleep with myself at night.  Those taking advantage are the ones who are going to have to face their own karma.  My Peruvian friend didn’t take advantage.  She never asked for a dime.  I did that all on my own.  If I knew she could bring her son out of the country, I would have bought her 2 plane tickets to Peru, but at the time, she was in the midst of a huge custody battle and there was no way I was going to pay that much for tickets on the off-chance she might be able to go.

My point?  Stop seeing dollar signs and wake up!!  There are people living in your neighborhood who are suffering.  Is a gift card tot he grocery store going to set you back that much?  And do it anonymously so they don’t come back looking for more.  I promise you it feels wonderful!!  Not to mention, that’s our purpose here… to help thy neighbor!!  So give it a try.  Leave an anonymous gift card (even if it’s as little as $10) to someone you know could use it, sit back and watch the results. Not only will you be helping someone else (quite possibly a complete stranger), but an action like this will bring you so much good karma in return.  Stop focusing on how much you’ve saved, and just once, help someone else.  I can almost guarantee that you’ll make a regular practice of it.  It feels so good!!

Even after being used repeatedly, I STILL make the effort to help those in need.  Strangers, and anonymously.  I can’t stand the thought of someone befriending me because they know I have money.  I also can’t stand to see the commercials on TV about children starving in other countries when we’ve got so many here with the same problem.  Look around.  Who can you help?  How can you make it anonymous?  It’s fun and it feels good.  I do hope you’ll all give it a try…

That is my thought for Tuesday.  Have a great day fellow bloggers!

Until next time…

~Kate